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These posts first appeared in The Hobson magazine. It’s about the commitment to reinvention at mid life.

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  • All I want is a Room Somewhere

    By Sandy Burgham When I was young and dreaming of what I wanted to be when I grew up, there was one constant amongst the changing line-up of fantasy careers. I was definite about one thing, and that was no matter what I ended up doing, I wanted to live in a “big house”. A “big house” would assure me

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  • A New Road Travelled

    By Sandy Burgham First our daughter left home, then my husband went to LA on an extended work trip. Then, we sent our son up there to join him on a father/son holiday. And I was left … alone. It was the first time I had been completely alone for more than 20 years. It was … bliss.  As an

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  • Hey Nineteen!

    By Sandy Burgham (Me with the long hair at 19 years of age). When our daughter turned 19 in April, as if by magic that trying, self-opinionated, combative persona gave way over-night to a delightful, hormonally-balanced version of her best self. We’ve been almost smug that she has emerged in this final year of her teens so centered, happy and

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  • Rewriting the Script

    By Sandy Burgham Here’s a question to answer right here, right now, honestly and with no fence sitting. Would you say who you are today has been shaped more by pain and disappointment; or joy and happy occasions?   Usually when I ask this, there are more people who admit to the former; and these are happy, successful well-rounded types

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  • Here’s to You, Mrs Robinson

    By Sandy Burgham As a feminist I have always subscribed to the assertion popularised by my heroine, Gloria Steinem, that “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle”. That was until I was in Britomart the other day, and was unexpectedly propositioned by a handsome young man on a bicycle. Youth is relative of course, and he

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  • Why I Went To…San Francisco

    By Sandy Burgham The Second Act columnist, Sandy Burgham takes a lightning — and enlightening — trip to Silicon Valley   As I mature, I am increasingly glad I live in New Zealand. This has nothing to do with wanting to slow down and retire, in fact quite the opposite. We all know the risks of living here – slow

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  • Looking the Part

    By Sandy Burgham By the time this is published I will have been on a tour of digital organisations in San Francisco. As someone who specialises in mid-life reinvention, it is particularly appropriate to consider the adapt-or-die context we live and work in. And what I will be quietly looking out for in the appropriately named Silicon Valley, is telltale

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  • Turning Off, Tuning In

    By Sandy Burgham Take the cellphone challenge – if you drive off leaving your smartphone on the kitchen bench, how far away from home can you be before you turn back? I live in St Heliers and have decided that my turn back zone extends as far as Fergs Kayaks in Okahu Bay, about seven kilometres down the road. I’m

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  • Trade Me a Less Cluttered Life

    By Sandra Burgham When I agreed to contribute to this publication, I said to the editor, “Ok, as long as you’re not expecting articles about how your life will improve if you clear clutter.” How we laughed — until this morning when I realised that actually that is exactly what I want to write about. Who wrote that you spend

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  • Dad as His Own Man

    By Sandy Burgham Pondering the faces of modern fatherhood   My daughter recently posted on Facebook a meme showing a toad-like creature with a grumpy face, and a headline that read: “How you feel when your mum comes home and all the fun and relaxation comes to an end”. One of the unexpected outcomes of maturing while previously-adorable children like my

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